How to Cope with Work After a Break-Up

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27th October 2016 / 11 comments

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How to Cope with Work After a Break-Up – 6 Strategies

It’s incredibly difficult to stay focused and productive at work when you’re suffering from the emotional trauma that comes from the end of a relationship.

Use our strategies to help you get through the day, and begin to regain control over your life.

1. Break down your day into small, achievable tasks

When you’re in the immediate aftermath of a break-up, focusing on the long term is incredibly painful. You can’t really contemplate life in the coming days, weeks or months. In fact, it’s all you can do to get through the next few hours.

And dealing with the bigger picture at work is equally difficult. Summoning the energy to deal with large projects seems daunting and unachievable.

So don’t try to do it.

Instead, break your day down into smaller tasks, with each lasting around an hour. This focus on the immediate is a form of mindfulness. Not only will it make you more productive – it will take your mind off your heartbreak (albeit temporarily).

2. Don’t attempt to block your feelings out

During the course of your working day, there will naturally be times when you’ll feel particularly emotional or sad.

In those moments, don’t ignore your feelings or try to carry on working. Instead, give yourself some mental time out.

Use this space to reflect and gather your thoughts before refocusing your energies, with greater clarity, on the task you’re facing.

3. Turn your phone off and leave it out of sight

When you’re going through an emotional break-up, it’s incredibly difficult to be your usual self.

However, it’s important to minimise your chances of bringing drama into your workplace. And if you receive a call or text from your ex – or even see one of their social media posts – your emotions may well take over.

So put your phone firmly in your desk drawer and don’t check your personal emails. Removing (or at least minimising) your desire to constantly check for messages from your ex (or even for sympathetic ones from your friends) will make you more focused and productive.

4. Share with your colleagues if it helps – but be aware of their feelings, too

When we say you shouldn’t bring drama into your workplace, this doesn’t mean you shouldn’t tell your colleagues what you’re going through. In fact, sharing your feelings with the people around you is an important part of your healing process.

The decision to share is entirely personal and one that only you can make. But you may find that being open and honest with your colleagues will help. After all, they’re the people that you spend the most time with on a daily basis, and they’ll often be able to provide emotional support.

What’s more, if your boss has noticed that you seem upset – or you feel that your break-up is impacting your ability to do your job – it’s probably worth letting him or her know that you’re going through a difficult personal situation.

The only caveat is that you need to remember they have work to do, too – so just be aware that you’re not putting too much of a burden on your colleagues.

5. Shake up your old work routines

The enforced change in engrained patterns and routines is one of the many reasons that break-ups can be so traumatic. And if you’ve been with your ex for a long time, it’s likely that even your work routines will connect you in some way.

If, for example, you always spoke to your ex at lunchtime, you’re bound to feel incredibly sad every day as that time approaches. So rather than waiting with dread, do something different. Ask a colleague to pop out for a walk or a sandwich, or arrange to meet a friend for coffee.

Establishing new routines is part of the healing process. It will empower you to reclaim your independence and will help you feel stronger (although you may not think so at first).

6. Get guidance from someone you can trust

It’s natural to feel lonely and lost after the end of your relationship. If you’re struggling to cope with life, finding the right person to offer guidance and support can make a tangible difference to your life, and the way you deal with work.

Whether you speak to a therapist or counsellor, or seek the support of a psychic, tarot reader, medium or clairvoyant, it’s vital that your relationship is built on trust.

With the right help, not only with you have the tools to cope at work. You’ll reclaim control over the rest of your life, and will begin to feel positive about your future.

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11 comments on "How to Cope with Work After a Break-Up"

  1. Mechelle Townsend says:

    Music helps me cope with almost anything. Try to do things to take your mind off the negative. Keep your self so busy that you forgot about the break up. Don’t dwell on the past or the negative just remain positive throughout it all.

  2. char9974 says:

    Good points here

  3. Melissa Soares says:

    for me work is an outlet, keeps me distracted from thinking of the pain.

  4. Melissa Soares says:

    for me work is an outlet, keeps me distracted from thinking of the pain.

  5. Anonymous says:

    Very interesting article with great points

  6. susanah6407 says:

    Just having someone there for you when the going gets tuff..quite often we only need to talk..someone to listen..freinds..family...make sure you have them around you at this time..

  7. helen1884 says:

    An interesting article, with some valid points. Get yourself out and about, grab a close friend and go for a refreshing walk at the seaside or in the countryside and be at one with nature.

  8. laura2593 says:

    I can so relate to this article. I came out of a relationship three months ago which hurt. It's been so hard at work to focus, more so when my ex works round the corner. But all of these points relate to me. I work with great people, a small company and they feel like family. They have all had different experiences in love and it's been so helpful being able to open up to them. I do find it hard to not have my phone out, incase i get a call or am tempted to check. But it's so important also to keep yourself busy.

  9. sadiya5672 says:

    🙌🏼🙌🏼

  10. Anaja Rose says:

    No number 2 is something I do sadly

  11. rajasree2227 says:

    Friends and sharing and taking could help enormously but of course it depends on individuals. Keeping yourself busy would certainly helpful but again depends how vulnerable individual is and whether one has the ability or ready to do it.