How do you know if you’ve found your soulmate?

Every week we answer a question from one of our community members right here on the blog. This week we heard from Amber, who recently met somebody she believes could be her soulmate. Here’s our advice on how to know if you’ve found your soulmate.

Q - Hi, Amber here. I recently met an amazing guy and we’ve been on a few dates. Things are moving really fast which usually freaks me out, but with him, I don’t mind. I really think he might be my soulmate but I might just be getting excited. How do you know if you’ve found your soulmate? Please help!

A - Hi, Amber. Ah, that sweet feeling of falling in love! It’s such a lovely time, so enjoy it. Who’s to say it’s moving fast? If you’re both comfortable with the pace of the relationship, it is going at the perfect speed.

There is a lot of debate about what a soulmate is, and whether we can have only one or many possible soulmates in our lifetime. Soulmates are generally defined as one soul in two bodies, and finding your soulmate makes you ‘whole’. I personally believe that we can have multiple soulmates in our lives, and these can be romantic or platonic soulmates. Most people think that a soulmate has to be a romantic interest, but you can also have family members or friends who are soulmates.

Many people believe that when you find your soulmate, you will immediately know. They think that just like in the movies, you will lock eyes with somebody across a room and suddenly the crowds will part and you will just know that you have found ‘your person’. However, this isn’t true. It isn’t always obvious at first that you’ve met your soulmate. It may take weeks, months or even years for you to realise that a person is your soulmate. However, there are a few signs that you can look out for to help you spot if they are your soulmate or not. Here’s our advice on how to know if you’ve found your soulmate.

You feel as though you’ve known them forever

The first and most obvious sign that you’ve met your soulmate is that you feel like you’ve known them forever, even if you’ve only just met. Many believe that soulmates have met before, in a past life, and are destined to be drawn to each other again in this one. When you meet somebody and feel as though you’ve met them before, or have known them for a lot longer, it could be a sign that your souls are recognising each other from a past meeting.

In many cases, when soulmates finally meet, they actually realise that they have actually been in the same place or places before. Some people realise they lived or worked closeby, or frequented the same areas, crossing paths but never meeting. This adds to the feeling that you’ve both been there in each other’s lives all along.

You feel calm around them

Many people believe that they have found their soulmate because the person makes them giddy and excited, and always gives them butterflies and makes their heart pound when they see them. Though these are all things we enjoy when we’re in a new relationship, the opposite is actually true when you meet your soulmate. Around your true soulmate, you will feel calm and peaceful, sure in the knowledge that this is the person for you, and that you can be completely comfortable with them. Of course, they will still give you butterflies from time to time, but there will be no panic or confusion, or wondering if they like you or not. With your soulmate, you’ll just know.

You can be completely yourself around them

It’s not uncommon for people to put on somewhat of a performance at the beginning of a relationship; you hide the ‘real’ you and be whoever you think the person you’re dating will like. However, when you meet your soulmate, you will find yourself relaxing and feeling like you can be 100% yourself around them. This is partly because you feel like you already know each other, so there is no point pretending, and also because you know that they will love and accept you for everything you are.

You challenge and support each other

A soulmate will help you be the very best version of yourself. They won’t be content with letting you simply float along in life; they want what you want for yourself, and they’ll make sure that you get it. A true soulmate will challenge you and support you, and vice versa.

You’re on the same page

You and your soulmate will understand each other and will want the same things. You’ll have the same morals and beliefs, and want the same things for the future. You’ll feel like two puzzle pieces that fit perfectly, and you will have no doubt that you’re meant to be together. You’re on the same page, and you know where you want your story to go. If you do have disagreements, you will be able to compromise easily and work together to find a solution.